Offices & Facilities throughout Los Angeles county staffed with certified and court listed instructors.
What to expect during your sessions:
Each session takes about 50 minutes, but you MUST make the time to fill out, sign, date and pay for your confidential personal “intake form” (see website) in advance of a meeting session so AAG can review your history, answer questions, determine which direction to go and recommend points of awareness and documentation/assignments to meet your needs as needed. Court / employer, etc. ordered progress reports will be sent to your attorney, legal representative, etc. Please review the website calendar for appointments to attend, as classes fill up quickly. AAG reserves the right to move, adjust class times and sizes as needed.
How We Work
Anger Awareness Group® connects you with our certified anger management instructors from the Los Angeles county court listing for criminal or family / civil matters using your phone, tablet or computer to sign you up for your program.
Live Well: Resolve to Feel Calm by Objective Setting. Hopefully your AM (Anger Management) is starting off on a positive note, and will shape up to be a time that brings
awareness and life skills, especially for those who set your mind on intermittent goals to reach desired resolutions.
Whether it’s a commitment to diet, exercise, or find a better career opportunity, the goals people resolve to achieve in an AM program usually are beset with the best of intentions, and with a plan to better / heal oneself. Unfortunately, most AM programs get side-tracked at the first sign of difficulty or embarrassment, etc. In fact, according to a 2015 article in U.S. News, & World Report, approximately 80% of resolutions fail by the second week of February. You MUST follow through.
So why exactly do four out of five people fall out of their AM after five or six weeks? Like with any type of AM program, people create huge, overly ambitious goals for themselves; just asking for total failure and setbacks like when you have not exercised in a long time. You can’t sprint when you can barely walk long distances; baby steps…but always progressing forward. says Robin John Rutt, certified anger management instructor. You have to resign yourself to be really motivated and prepared to change. Life is not a light switch that they can just flip and you suddenly change your thought process / habits. Our brain doesn’t work that way. You need to learn to re-train your mind / thinking process to adjust your behavior and grow from positive experiences. This is true for any goal set throughout your life. When presented with the enormity of the whole program, it’s so
easy to get discouraged very quickly, and become self-defeating; you must rise above it and become “self-enhancing.” Instead of advancing your betterment, you wind up dismantling everything you’ve built.” An APB on your life; All Positive Behavior. The way to counter the path to self-sabotage is to break the routine with goals into intermittent “baby step goals” – incremental steps that lead to positive behavior. This mental/logical preparation will seem difficult at first and may seem to add to your approach. However, preparation tends to provide opportunities for success early in the objective process.
It all starts with the decision to address what “triggers” you. You need to lay out and meet levels by leading a positive life. Proclaiming you’ll do something every day may be setting the bar too high, setting yourself up for failure. Instead, maybe set yourself up to be ready, especially if you are certain of the things that “trigger” you. Even the biggest snowball started with 1 flake, work on adding flakes to snow ball and, you’ll be more likely to repeat successful action.” Reaching your objectives and enjoying your progress enhances your approach to the overall task. You are essentially re-setting your thinking with awareness to think positively, and assess your weaknesses and build up your strong points.
The more tools you are familiar with and put into practice, the better equipped you are to handle yourself. This is critically applicable after a letdown – regardless of whether it is attributed to anxiety or depression; lack of career/personal progress or from complacency – because you’ll need the skills built from the “step” goal process to reflect on, and to remind you that you are capable of meeting your ultimate objectives; (APB) All Positive Behavior).
Whatever you choose as your “trigger” tools, here are some tips that may help you:
Concentrate on minute goals – even ones not related to your overall objective – helps you start and enhance the success and self-awareness that will enhance your resolve, and form a positive outlook. Make a daily/weekly contract with yourself; f you get upset at the traffic, maybe leave home 5 minutes earlier, or production at work, communicate with meetings with superiors or colleagues to get things done more efficiently.
Everybody appreciates effort. If you spend too time on the internet, and are upsetting your family/friends by not doing other things, set a timer when you start surfing, to stop after 30-45-60 minutes and knock off when it goes off; re-set your habits and compromise. Remember, some of your “triggers” maybe a factor of “triggers” to others.
Set goals that are simple but reachable, particularly at the outset, and recognize when and where to adjust/change the goal/approach as your objectives. Tactics can be changed; what works with one individual, doesn’t always work with a crowd/group. One example would be instead of committing to the gym 7 days a week immediately will more than likely lead to failure, especially if you have not exercised in a while, regardless of age.
Remember; “baby steps”, because the objective is to be aware and be consistent by exercising a couple times a week, then build up from there. Your body will tell you when you can go further. Be happy with small consistent objectives met, rather than to fail at too big of a picture. Remember, tactic/approach can be modified.
Resolution may come faster in some areas in your life than others.
(APB) All Positive Behavior – Even if your objectives are reachable, DO NOT get discouraged by a slow progress. Be consistently positive and those around you will react to you, but it will take time. Not everybody will be sold on your efforts. A “stalemate” point is where you need to reinforce/remind yourself that any progress is positive; celebrate even the most minuscule advance rather than failure. At least at the “stalemate” point, you did not digress./backslide If you only got to the gym once this week, remind yourself why you did go and there’s still next week, stop and think why you may have been pre-empted from doing so. You can still go again or double up next week. Plateaus/stalemate points do happen, and maybe you didn’t gain weight, you held your own. Positive to focus on success than to dwell on the negative/failures; failure takes energy and detracts from your efforts as well.
Working as “step” objectives will draw your attention to your many strengths and weaknesses. Learn to self-assess and use them to help keep you focused and on track. If you find yourself needing to emphasize on “awareness” tools than others, make that your main area of attention. If procrastination is a problem, give yourself reminders; we all have to do things to remind ourselves and keep on track; EX: scheduling bills to be paid, or calendar your reminders on your phone to go off when you need to remind yourself.
Remember; Your accomplishments are your own – even the smallest advances – can help you surpass what seem like insurmountable log jams to your overall success. Establishing the optimal path to reach this is something you may also develop through even the smallest achievement. Journal/calendaring is a common means for people to remind themselves about their objectives as well as their achievements. Written records show the effort put in, but keeping written records would be the thing that reminds you how far you may have come and the commitment you have made. For some, when a weak moment arises, is to call someone or walk away; NEVER escalate.
Accountability and the proper emotional support while reaching for an objective, and getting it from someone other than themselves can be very driving force in one’s efforts. Attending sessions can be good for you learn from others, that “You are not alone.” Sessions can make you feel like you are more a part of the solution than you realize by what you may learn from others attending the sessions, and can remind the objectives setter about successes reached and lessons learned.
Also, never rule the power and helpfulness of technology. Smartphone apps can automatically track your progress and provide reminders of the “steps” you have climbed. For those who want the support of Anger Management, opportunities for you to discuss your efforts with a certified AM Instructor wherever / whenever you are most comfortable.
By making the decision to take positive action using the above recommendations, clients ought to have what it takes to reach the objectives that lie ahead. If, however, you need assistance with objective setting/reaching, or if you could just use some measuring to inject positivity into your efforts, we are here for you. Just visit AngerAwarenessGroup.com for more information, or arrange for sessions with one of our court listed instructors to discuss strategies for (APB) All Positive Behavior!